I have given this site one chance after the other to show me it is legitimate. Every time I am disappointed - not just by the way they operate the website but by the scam artists on the site who say they want a relationship but are just scamming women and still using the site to date other women.

I'm an African-American female, 51 years old and I have been on the site off and on since I was 38. Every single time I sign up, it's the same old BS. The men are scamming you and the site doesn't help because they won't block and delete the ones you don't want to connect with like they're set up to do.

You can block someone, delete someone, it doesn't matter. They have the site set up to generate the same messages you had with someone you decided to block, delete or report. Also, I hear a lot from the guys who I talk to on the side that Black people meet will use their automation system to put people who haven't even contacted you in your message box just to get you to sign on. Even some have said they get contact messages on their page when the woman actually didn't contact them. I believe it because of the way they've done me and I have contacted them about continuing to put messages from guys I don't want to hear from again in my message box. I'd completely block and delete 50 plus messages on one night to clear my messages. The next night every one of those messages would be back in my message box, plus some other old messages!

I email them to contact them about it and get no response. The only thing that would keep happening is I will get more and more old contacts back in my message box as if they were mad that I sent that email complaint.

To make it worse, most of these messages would be from months and months ago, and they were always people who I had deleted or blocked and didn't want to hear from again.

BPM always want to make it look like you have a lot of messages or someone's trying to contact you because it's their way of getting you to stay on the site, but that is tantamount to a scam if people are contacting me that I don't want to hear from again. I wish I were a lawyer or knew one who could stop this mess! I would sue them for how they operate this website - manipulating peoples' feelings and emotions in such a callus and uncaring manner.

A few years ago I had a problem with the site where if I touched the screen I'd get charged for the little extras (read receipts, etc).

I didn't notice that this time around but I still think the site is a scam with the way they keep putting old contacts and messages in your message box to make you think people are contacting you, even though you've already blocked and deleted those same people. I have even reported one or two contacts because of bad behavior or scamming only later to see them still on the site under the same name or a different username.

I don't trust this site at all and the government really needs to regulate sites like this since this business is too interested in money to do right by it's customers. The FTC is it? Maybe I should write a letter.

I can't believe I signed up for another six months! It won't happen again. But that's what I get for trying and trusting. I think I'll go to the legitimate was like eHarmony a match.com instead

I'm a current (on and off) paying member of this site. I don't recommend it as a meet option to my friends as they are not as savvy with bait and trap sites such as BPM. Don't get me wrong, it's not impossible to meet a nice person on the site but the time, effort and hurdles one has to endure to meet such a person almost makes it not worth the effort, however, with some patience due diligence and plain ole common sense, you can make it work for you. So here i'll tell you some of the pits to avoid, what I don't like about the site followed by what I actually like about it.
First off, don't use a major credit card to purchase your membership, use a payment service site such as Paypal that will not share your financial information, I've never had an issue using this method. It is my belief that BPM does hold back views, probably as a push for their upgraded "Increase your Views" service that they offer. The reason I think this is, I've noticed that when I've allowed my membership to lapse my views increase 10 fold. I mean I personally get more than my fair share of views and flirts etc, but when my membership is over the emails that I get (which can't be read) are crazy high and I'd say that at lest 60% are genuine member messages. I've tested this theory several times and the results are always the same. So what does this mean for you? Well if your profile normally gets a lot of attention (emails, flirts, etc), then missing out out on the few that the site is holding back will really go un-noticed however if you're not accustom to receiving a lot of feedback from members interested in your profile, then the emails that they're hold back could be the reason you're not seeing the volume you were expecting.
I also notice that many many users (and I can only speak about the women, being that I am a man) fail to complete even half of their profile and I'm sure just as many guys do it but a well managed dating site wouldn't allow a uncompleted profile to get views at all (especially with no photos). I feel like I've wasted a lot of time opening profiles with little to no basic information given about the person I'm trying to view. The same can be said about photos, the site should monitor and approve photos posted on profiles. We (men and women) shouldn't have to view photos of houses, cars, animals, scenery, food, the list goes on and on. The site says it approves photos but if that's the case then they need to re-think what they (BPM) view as acceptable. I've also found the the 'site' will also send unsolicited flirts from your account to other members, possibly as a response boost (for them) to members who receive little attention from other members to prevent them from leaving the site (?).
One of the biggest flaws about this site are the scammers, there are far too many ways that a scammer can approach you for me to even begin to name them, just be smart and use your common sense and this might keep you somewhat safe. My personal methods that work for me to stay one step ahead of the scammers are: if they're asking for money, quickly ask for your number, want you to go to another site to talk, give numbers with area codes that don't match the city they live in, all these things to me say "scammer" and i'm quick to block. If I feel like i'm really connecting with a person, I set up for a public meet asap as scammers will not agree for a meet or will stall this as long as possible, because they just want you to send money and usually have no intention on meeting you.
Finally, what I do like about the site, I've been fortunate to meet some really wonderful women on BPM just not my 'muse' (yet), but because I'm alert, patient and prepared I can enjoy myself while at the same time avoiding all the bear traps afoot and I think everyone else can have the same experience.

I wish you the very best in your endeavor and I hope my review has been of some assistance.

T. F. Tampa Fl

VEDA E. Crystallized my thoughts exactly. I'm an attractive and young looking 50 year old Black male, had my share of ups and downs like anyone else, educated, no criminal record, no health issues, no drug issues, no mental issues (that I know of LOL), professional and entrepreneurial, politically active, artistically creative, and TRULY single. I love humor and long deep conversations about anything. I signed up on the site in the DC metro area out of curiosity and to be honest, because I am in finding "the one" mode. It's been a while since a woman made me WANT to do all I can to help keep her happy and worry free. So I was willing to give this a shot. You never know. It was a shot alright... in the gut. LOL I received more likes and attention from "supposedly" attractive white women with air brushed photos than the Sistas initially. I guess the full name of the site is "Black People Meet Fake White People". And the Sistas all but seem to be way more focused on looks and photos than a sincere message of interest... even when most of them posted photos that were sometimes 10-15 years old. But of course, YOU have to look good NOW for them. Sort of a "I'm charging a dollar for a nickel's worth" philosophy.

The more physically attractive women... and the ones who THINK they're all that... most times, will post dozens of photos but write few words as to what they're about. Shallow and pretentious; knowing that men will respond to their looks without giving anything else a 2nd thought. I've even read women's profiles that actually read "since I know the men here don't read profiles... I'll keep this short..." in effect, catering to the very same type of men they complain about. What kind of twisted s**t is that?! Thanks for contributing to the site's already dysfunctional dating dynamic. It's just too many women that are too jaded and too shallow on that site... and for REAL Brothas with honest and honorable intentions, it's a complete letdown. Mixed messages are everywhere. Some women may be justified in being jaded and bitter... but unfortunately, that doesn't help me one bit. I ain't got nuthin' to do with what they went through. I'm not just "another" brother... I'm the "other" brother. Always have been. And as we used to say, "My name is Paul... and that was just between y'all". LOL

And something that I REALLY can't understand at all is those women who complain about the quality of men of site in their profile but won't leave. Don't like it, leave. But I think they stay to torture. LOL Yes, there are many women with multiple kids, but that's not be criticized IMO... unless that comes with "other" issues. Like baby daddy drama or posting too provocative photos. Think about it... what respectable man with honest and real intentions wants a woman WITH KIDS who took booty pics to post online for thousands of men to see? That only attracts ONE type of man ladies... and he's rarely the respectable type. That's just proven science... and always seems to be a Fatal Attraction episode. LOL!

What also trips me out is why WERE there so many REAL profiles of women that were well written, thorough, attached to some of the most attractive Women are no longer active but they're still used as matches on the site. Aside from the obvious deception, those women are almost always gone and I doubt if it's because they found their one true love on this site. Probably because they were special and sincere and they couldn't take the BS any longer is more like it. And the site itself is awkward at best... always erasing my password and always begging you for more money thru pop-ups. So in considering all that, I'm being permanently disqualified for participating on that site... by ME. LOL

If you're a professional woman you are going to be hard-pressed to find a guy. Either he will be looking for sex, but says he's serious; has little money for a courtship because he's unemployed or makes very little; or is just plain obstinate, arrogant, or inconsiderate. Most men there have told me they're "just visual beings," and while chemistry is very important, one must not ignore that a decent moral compass is equally important if it's to be a lasting and healthy relationship, otherwise, you deserve what you get if you choose based on artificial measures (this goes for both sexes). 90% of the ones I met on BPM did not have an honest moral compass (just told you what you wanted to hear but I was smart enough to wait and weed, as I call it. 5% lacked simple consideration and were less interested in me or what I had to say or wanted than themselves. The other 5% were just mean as heck. The site wasn't well-designed either. It's crazy how only one person can type one word, click send; type another few words, click send; and another word or two and click send, but you get a notice that 3 messages are in you inbox it looks like 3 men are trying to contact you, but not until you sign in do you discover only one person may have sent several messages. This is very deceptive.
And speaking of deceitful tactics, BPM find sneaky ways to beat extra money out of you by placing icons that you can accidentally hit in different spotsI knowit happened to me more than once. They put these icons in places you can accidentally click on and your credit card gets charged. It's also very difficult to find out how to cancel your membership and actually do it. The site sucks and the guys suck, too! The men are so shallow and many put younger pics on there. I've gotten catfished a few times. So for all those issues, the cost is ridiculous! I can't believe they even think they can charge that much. The other sites don't seem to be that much better for black women, either, but I'm certainly done with BPM! If an attractive, charming, successful, emotionally and financially stable, well-educated, professional, black woman, with a great job who could care less about looks and money can't find a decent and honest man after 3 years off and on on the site, then I don't know what's the problem. Yes, I'm overweight but so are 68% of African American women. On the other hand, I am very particular about finding a man with some kind of job and who can hold a job longer than a year; who is a gentleman and talks in a kind manner to me; who isn't emotionally or physically abusive, on drugs or an alcoholic; who has a relationship with his children and family; who bathes everyday; who doesn't live with his parents and who is an honest person. Those are my only requirementsthat's it! And I still could not find all of that in one guy over a 3 year period. Sad state for most black women. Slim pickings of black men out there. I think I'll do what a lot of our black men are doing and switch over.

Not worth it do alot of upgrade promotion. Solicit for other sites. Send messages on your behalf!?

Well first off i may be a few years late on
Wrighting this review regarding BPM. Well
For one. I dont know why the site is called.
"Blackpeoplemeet". Which is missleading.
The site is known for sending out fake
"Likes" to men and women users. Now
For myself. Who is male and considered
To be fairly attractive as well as decent
And level headed.And based on where
I live which is seattle. Which is a issue
Within itself when it comes to black dating.
I find that the site can be a big waste of
Time. I dont even like being sighned up
On there for to long or frequently. But to
Get to the point. And what i have seen
And oberserved and noticed on BPM
Is most of the women on there are the
Same ol same ol faces that are sighned
Up on there every year(trolling) having
No real wants of meeting anybody.
Most of the women will have 30+ pics
And selfies but wont fill out thier profiles
For anything. Most can comprehend a
Message of "hello how are you today".
Most of the women will state all these
"Standard" and demands from the men.
All while they typically are no better then
The men they are seeking. Another thing
Is these women will pose as "single and
State how they are good moms and hard
Working. All while long they likely already
Have a man at home. Or they are looking
To kill time seeking male attention and
Are looking for a dinner date to get out
Of a guy and waste his time untill her
Actuall man gets out of jail or decides
To act right. So they will troll and occupy
Thier time on the site. Most of the women
Cant communicate good enough to
Have a 3rd conversation to see if theres
A connection to even get anywhere.
Most washed up single mothers with
Baggage. Most dont and wont pay for
A subscription to be able to message
Back. And lastly. I dont even know why
Many black women are even on the
Site. Most of these chicks likely have
Some kind of agenda. Theres more
But im not trying to write a book here.
But jus to touch on things about this
Site regarding the women on the site
Who are alsonthe problem. I know its
Crazy from both sides. And also the
Site is just sketchy itself.-Thank you

Just the other day recently, I looked up the man who claimed he was a DEA undercover as supervisor on truthfinders.com and mylife.com. Truthfinders couldn't find any results on the name James Timothy Mitchell or the birthday November 12, 1983. So I tried mylife.com to look up his background. The site came up with a lot of James Mitchell's and Timothy Mitchell's with different age brackets older than 35 and younger than 35 but still no James Timothy Mitchell age 35. Then I tried JT Mitchell and still nothing. So I tried looking up his name on the list of professionals section on mylife.com and typed in James Timothy Mitchell, Drug Enforcement Administration. A broad list of the names of people who work for the DEA showed up but still no James Timothy Mitchell. So now I am suspicious that I was dating possibly a con artist and narcissist under the pretense of working for the DEA. And a suspicious thing about it was that he never allowed me to be able to see what his house looked like because he claimed that his "DEA job" was paying for the hotels he was staying in. So he could have either be selling drugs and his profits were at his house or pimping out girls, trying to control her out in public and at home and then shames her for not doing what he wants her to do. As I said before, he mentioned more than once that he could get laid without using the internet and had other resources (other women). Plus he says he had two addresses which is questionable. He gave me one address and wouldn't give me the other address and I found that ironic. I looked up his address 4973 Bloom Dr. St. Louis, MO ******* on mylife.com. Lots of addresses came up on the site but no 4973 Blooms Dr. St. Louis, MO *******. So now I think he prefers women with low self-esteem who are on a desperate mission to find someone to love her so he can tear her down low to the ground and then emotionally abuse her by threatening to break up and dump her based on my experience with this man. He revealed that he has done that many times to women and dumped them, calling them crazy. Ladies, if you try online dating, stay away from men who claim they work for the DEA or tell you that their jobs require them to travel frequently. One man on blackpeoplemeet.com said in his profile that he had a Doctorate's Degree. Knowing that people lie on the internet all the time, I knew better than to fall for that, come on now. I didn't even send him a message. I just got off blackpeoplemeet.com and permanently closed my account down. What JT was probably really doing for a living if he is not DEA might be scary bad news I don't want to find out. Like pimping out girls and then controlling and destroying her self-esteem, gaslighting and emotional abuse, and even hitting her if she stayed with him long enough for the relationship to escalate into domestic violence. And every woman he called crazy, it was probably because she refused to put up with his crap and wouldn't let him treat her wrong. What a phony he might be and a high possibility of scary Bad News.

I got on BPM a year ago met this guy that was very controlling name John he had a lot of anger issues and he got mad because I didn't call him fast enough. He was upset that I was communicating with other guys. I told him that this is a dating website I I was trying to meet people he told me that I should only be dating him." How could I only date you when we never met to even see if something was there enough said I told him that we couldn't talk anymore and he constantly called my phone cussing me out. Another guy was looking for a woman to take care of him no job states he was in school again I stop talking to him. Fast forward today was on the website for only a day. I received a message from a guy I told him I was not interested he told me that he didn't send me any messages to me. I believe that the company sends you fake messages to get you to keep communicating online to continue getting money. Talk to another guy seemed really nice however something is not right I am trusting my gut feelings and I cancelled my membership. I called the company asking for a refund because of my bad experiences they told m that I signed up for a year subscription and they will not refund me back my money. The representative was rude told me they would take out the money for a year and then give me a refund. I took my pictures down and deactivated my account and called my credit card company to cancelled my card to stop them from trying to take out any other charges from them. LADIES PLEASE BE AWARE ALOT OF THE PROFILE ARE FAKE AND SCAMMERS ARE ON THERE AS WELL. BEAWARE OF MEN THAT SAY THEY ARE IN THE MILTIARY OR HAVE A DECEASED WIFE, OR ONLY WANT TO CONTACT YOU BY EMAIL. WATCH OUT FOR THIER GRAMMER ONE GUY TOLD ME HE HAS TWO MASTERS DEGREES BUT HE COULDNT SPELL OR USE CORRECT PROUNICATION. LADIES WHEN LOOKING FOR A MAN ALWAYS ASK GOD TO REVEAL HIS HEART, MOTIVES, AND INTENTIONS REMEMBER BY DOING THIS YOU WILL SAVE YOURSELF FROM HEARTACHE AND EVEN MORE. I HOPE THIS HELP SOMEONE. I AM NEVER GOING ON THE SITE AGAIN. LET THE LORD CHOOSE YOUR MATE. GOD BLESS WATCH AND PRAY AND WATCH GOD REVEAL THOSE CREEPS ON THAT SITE.

Magda 3146 Is defiently not looking for a relationship. We begin having a conversation that went well, seem very interested, conversation was interesting. There was some red flags at the beginning I should have not ignored. This guy is from Egypt owns his on truck rental company in Sheepshead BAy Brooklyn. Has three kids. He is a liar, the pics on his profile are probably from 15 years ago he will tell you hes 49 but his driver license shows he was born in 1956 and he honestly looks like he was born in 1956. He smokes cigarettes like its no tomorrow, that was one red flag.

When we decided to meet up I was in shock, he told me he was 5feet 11 inches more like 5feet 5 inches and he does not look like he is in his late 40s at all. I felt like I was catfished. So I decided to continue the date we went to get something to eat, then we went back to his office where he lives out of which is nice. He kept getting this call from this guy who speaks Arabic and I swear he called at least 10times to the point I was nerves didnt know if they were plotting to kill me,(lol) I was a little worried but I used my translator and it was just men talk so later that night he came on to me strong I was not feeling this at all. He started taking his clothing off and OMG I never seen a penis so little in my entire life! He got so angry when I turned down sex.

His whole demeanor changed, his phone was ringing, he shot it across the floor yelling at me that he has never been turned down for sex, that moment I thought I was going to die. He decided to go in the other room to cool down and I decided to get my stuff and leave. He started talking about how his life suck and etc. I think he is very depressed and hates life he was nice at the beginning. When he doesnt get what he wants, he goes into a rage. I was angry and perplexed. This nice guy I talked to over the phone was simply a fraudulent, he is good at charming you, he got me with it. Ladies dont be fooled over when he tells you he has a condo in Miami because he is in debt over his head.

He will also text you pics of him from 15 years ago. I guess he wants to be forever young, his kids dont even visit him, another red flag and they live across the street from him, smh. Hes a very miserable old man. Please take caution if you choose to deal with him. He just wants sex thats it. He states he has a PH. D yeah he does in playing mind games smh.

That's gay it's from Nigeria!
Name is Saiful Alam and he sell electronics products!