ConnectingSingles

I was a Connecting Singles member for about a month and I was treated horribly by staff. The problem being that the general chat forums feature a number of topics, including politics and their forums seems to be overrun by Republican/Trump supporters. However, anyone that doesn't subscribe to the racism, misogyny, weird/crazy conspiracy theories and xenophobia frequently posted by members, and/or if you dare to hold points of view that don't exactly reflect the general sentiments from the majority of their chat forum frequent posters, gets bullied, harassed, attacked and targeted. Then as if that isn't bad enough, Connecting Singles staff seems complicit in siding with those very same awful people... as they tend to gang up and complain to staff when anyone posts anything they don't agree with. I was banned a month ago and every attempt to reach out to admin and staff to find out the reason for their actions, and/or for any proof I did anything wrong, was met with TOTAL silence. Not ONE single reply. And I've reached out to them ath least six times. All that while the people (Trump supporters) who were responsible for the campaign against me were allowed to continue on the site without any repercussions. It's completely disgusting what's happening on that site. They should be disallowed from even being able to run that site as a free and open dating site at this point. It is not. Staff has clearly aligned itself with a "certain type" of member. That site should definitely be looked into. Add that to the fact that the site is infested with scammers and fake accounts and the site begins to look even less appealing, if that was at all possible. Avoid that site at all cost.

Connecting Singles with all noble intentions is a failure. No matter if it is free or not, the failure is everyone who plays there. Though everyone has their motives and expectations of why they are there and what they hope to find or gain. Yet, it's becoming more of joke than a hope of finding anyone.
Recently I made all kinds of parody songs about the behavior of everyone. The unrealistic expectations they place on their profiles and their selectiveness of email inquiries.
An example is, if a girl emails a guy out of some kind of interest then the guy responds then nothing or they disappear for days.
How are people expected to connect if they spend their time ghosting one another?
The usual fleabags both male and females on the blogs and forums post all kinds of useless bits of info, they create social cliques and banter to each other. Not, considering what you post on social media in most cases is a matter of record.
Where this site would be so successful is if everyone was required to take a psychological test to meet a reasonable criterion it would weed out many who just don't belong there.
In life people fall in a bell curve. There will be a few exceptionals and a few lower than whale poop folks and somewhere in between we will find the overall quality of people.
What it boils down to, a dating site could be built to gauge people to find suitable partners via a bell curve.
Hence, all what we consider dysfunctional they would have a place for them. Those in the middle of the road would have their place and the upper echelon will have theirs.
Mixing it in all in one pot may offer diversity but, I don't think it works so well. This is imo the failure of connecting singles.
The real waste is so many are on this site and one wonders who are they corresponding to if they never involve themselves in the blog community.
Few involve themselves in the forums.
The lights are on but, nobody is home.
If people have no intention to correspond why are they there?

I am not so young anymore and was looking for a relationship or partner and begin January I subscribed CS and look out who I will meet. Everything begin with mutual likes and sometimes a mail. The first woman was from Norway lived in the US but was for her "business" in Turkey, lovely chats etc etc and she asked me using 'Hangouts'. Before I didn't know that instant chat app but I give it a try. Not yet 5min after the first use she showed me a Turkey's Custom paper she had to pay within 24 hours if not she could not shipping her goods to Oslo and asked me to send her 6400 euro and she will return me that money when she come visit me. I am not stupid and I stop all contact.
The second one lived in Australia but has to go Texas (US) where her father was brought to hospital for an urgent surgery on his brain but she could not pay the bill for that surgery... what come next I don't have to tell anymore, we all can guess.
It was not so a big surprise because that kind of woman are 30y more younger than me but in the beginning I will give them the benefit of the doubt. At moment I mail with nr. 3 I found in the USA region but after she say she lives in Russia, but when I analyse our mails I see many things not corresponding with my questions and give me answers not belong to my questions. Now I acting like we can have something nice what I doubt and will lookout how far and how long it takes before she posed me the one million dollar question. I really doubt there are serious dating sites even paid dating sites are not a guaranty and I experienced that after one time... membership fee lost. I really miss the time ICQ instant chat form years before that time there was not one scam but nice and good pen pals friends.