You have to understand on clear thing: THIS SITE IS A 2 IN 1 DEAL. People are vetted based upon:

1) their overall attractiveness +
2) their ability to PULL IN MORE USERS

I have found an UNDERGROUND OKC and have made some friends in that with my last account, but then admin began asking me strange questions about my experiences there that sounded alot less like SITE PATROLLING and a lot more like I WAS FOUND OUT AS A NON INSIDER among that group.

I have a running list of accounts that are "sponsored" by the site.

I was among the very first to report that okc was OWNED BY MATCH.COM to be used as its social outlet site.

HOWEVER AS OF 2 DAYS AGO A MUCH BIGGER ANNOUNCEMENT WAS MADE: Match.com BOUGHT POF /Plenty of Fish and has bought into /partnered with TINDER.

By years end ALSO be on lookout for Ashley Madison to be brought into the fold.

WHY ALL THIS: to cut radically the price of the investment & upkeep of all those lab created profiles. BY overlapping data bases and also ADMIN STAFF...

The operating costs should have al least a 40% reduction which means 40% more profit.

Just so you know Toni, look up Passionate Composer. I will write you back. REAL PEOPLE DO THIS. You may like the profile too. I was among the first to take advantage of the social site move.

Don't waste your time or money its mostly bots and fake profiles.

Married guys seeking $#*! on the side. Scams... What out...
Three things...
1.If you can not meet & greet in public with in one week. Drop them
2.If they can only E talk with you at a So & So time. Watch out... Married...
3. If they ask for $$. RUN & Fast..

I am a moderator for OKC. I have no idea why they picked me; frankly, I think they pull us out of their hats.

Here are our guidelines, word for word:

Guidelines
Last updated Aug 21

General
Reports should be on the item in question.
Profile image reports should be on images, not profiles. (Flag the photo.)
Empty or inactive profiles should be left alone unless they meet other conditions for deletion.
Users do not have to show their face (in other words, headless bodies are OK). [Me: this is a new and more liberal guideline].

Things that are okay

OK In Profiles
Blank or incomplete profiles
Inactive profiles
Couples profiles

OK in Messages
Links to legitimate personal websites

OK in Photos
Album photos may include pets, cars, baby photos, artwork, etc.

Things to delete

Delete in profile photos
Not a photo of the user (e.g. Pets, cars, artwork, etc.)
Full nudity (Ladies, no nips. Guys, no dongs.)
Extreme close ups (e.g. Tattoos, eyes, etc.)
Childhood photos

Delete In Album photos
Full nudity and offensive content

Delete in Profiles
Reveals they’re under 18
Reveals another user’s personal details
Is threatening or violent
Engages in hate speech
Stolen photos (check Tineye.com and Google Image Search)
Claims English as a primary language but has the grammar of a non-English speaker (Scammer Grammar)

Delete in Messages and local broadcasts
Threats or harassment
Hate speech
Crude, overt sexual remarks
Commercial solicitations

Mods seem to be pretty generous. There's the main photo (profile pic) and the ones you see when you click on Photos (album pics). We see all of them.

The ONLY profiles we see are the ones in which a member has flagged a PHOTO. Then we read the profile. I have never recommended deletion because of content; I can see the other mods' remarks and think they do the same.

There are several suspicious things we see: If there is only one pic in their profile, it is very possible it was stolen. Very good-looking woman are suspicious (even if the photo is not pro). We check GIS and TE. As far as the profile pic not having the user in it, but has the user in the album, I am lenient. I say "ntu - not the user" but recommend it be left alone. Mods often differ on degrees of nudity allowed. I am conservative in this area.

Frankly, it is so easy to recommend scammers, I don't know why people complain. So what if they are. Ignore them or report them. Any man who asks me, in the first or second message, to email or text and provides that info I immediately delete. Also found a guy with a well-written profile. We communicated for awhile, then I told him he could call. He could barely speak english and told me he was from Africa!. His pic was definitely a white man (not that their aren't white people in Africa) and did not show up on GIS. That's the only problem I've had.

Use GIS or TE on every profile you look at. If someone emails you, do the same.

I'm on many sites, and as I've said before here, scammers exist with little difference in percentages. Now Zoosk - crappy, and have to pay or you can't message, so what's the point of the "free" site? And, IMO, the men are sooooooo boring; much more interesting on OKC. I paid for match, ourtime, and chemistry - briefly. I called chemisty, complained and they refunded the money I had not used. These, including OKC, are all under the same umbrella.

BTW, I once started my profile with "I $#*! ON THE FIRST DATE" and it got worse after that. It was obviously sarcasm. But I was not banned. Try to say $#*! on any other site! I left that profile up briefly. Ya know, there's a lot of men who don't understand sarcasm.

I hope this info helps.

Some people are no doubt deleted by the moderators. Maybe they are reported by others as scammers. Some might just find a match and say OK, I am going to delete my profile. Some "might" be married and their spouses find out and they are covering their tracks. All I I am saying is, so many possibilities. I was having a nice chat back and forth with a lady and she said she had "personal issues to deal with" and said goodbye and deleted her profile.

Many of the dating sites disclose in the fine print that their site is for entertainment purposes (only) and that they do encourage interaction by having (staff) post compilation profiles. I believe the typical ratio is about 10 male to 1 female member. This might justify the phantom interest in
Males to keep us entertained, but hardly seems necessary for the ladies.
So, possibly you are experiencing the typical male response but maybe the potential candidates you chose had some legitimate reason to exit.
Personally, I acknowledge marital status and physical characteristics to
Avoid instant disqualification upon actually meeting. But I'm sure some do not adhere to that philosophy. At the moment I am trying Ashley Madison
And so far just a short list of objections. Best wishes to you.

Welcome to okcupid where there are more "ghosts" than real people. Funny to find you'll get more rejection here then in real life. No reply to messages, or a reply by those who aren't who they say they are. Take it with a grain of salt, you'll need it, the only date you'll have tonight is with your steak.

Likely, yes. Players mostly. I didn't find much of that, but I read profiles carefully, and reviewed the question/answer search on Cupid, which helped narrow out players. Anyone with only a two sentence profile, or who has not taken the time to answer the life questions fairly thoroughly, don't waste you time on. You can "feel" those who are trying and likely sincere. Good luck!

I had the same thing happen to me only with woman they would ask for money and when i would not send them any by the next day there profile was gone

Could be a scammer or married person. Or could just be the person needs a break. These sites can be addictive. Okc doesn't allow one to hide your profile, only to disable it. Could be the person met someone and wants to give it a proper chance. Who knows?

Be careful who you message, she's right there are plenty of fakes. Hope you have just as much luck finding a boyfriend like I did! Good luck!

Quite likely they are scammers or fake ids and their accounts have been reported. The site is full of fake people with photos of innocent people lifted from internet.

It seemed a huge waste of time to communicate with people only to have them reveal themselves to be frauds. A week is all I was willing to give it. I'll stick to meeting people in my own area.