OkCupid Questions & Answers

It's good only if you absolutely feel the need to burn your money and time! Seriously speaking, don't repeat my mistake! I had wasted plenty of time and emotions there trying to find a gem among rubbish. Just go to a decent and efficient site with good reputation and you will have plenty of choice there as long as you are a normal and adequate person. I'm using https://j4l.com/402007 And I'm content with it. I found several ladies that I really like, I had meetings with them and now its the time to choose for me!

OLC is so so... Most of the woman are in dream land and seeking Mr USA. And are not going to meet you in person 95% of the time... You really need to weed out the B. S & players... And that is simple to do... If they can't meet you in person in public with in one week. Drop them... Don't waste your time... Next!

Terri - this is what I recently sent in about OKC. I will answer your specific questions at the end of this. I have heard many complaints about OKC and scammers. But I AM NOT HAVING ANYWHERE NEAR THE PROBLEMS THAT OTHERS ARE COMPLAINING ABOUT. I am on several sites, and I experience about the same % of scammers on all. 1) it is so easy to spot a scanner - he wants to use email or text/phone right away. Is this really a problem? I immediately block. 2) if he is in Africa or any other 3rd world nation, I immediately block. I filter my messages so that I do not receive messages from anyone who has answered less than 100 questions or is at least an 85% match. Scammers are so obvious. Also, I note that most scammers claim to be "god-fearing christians," or "looking for an LTR or marriage." I am an atheist and very liberal and state this in my profile and my questions. I know what I am about to say is very offputting, snobbish, elite, etc., but I don't think scammers hit atheist, well-educated, and skeptical people as much as they do others (christians). Sorry, but I did say you wouldn't like that. Scammers are on every site. I have been following the sites and the complaints about scammers. My conclusion, based on my experience, blogs, and LOTS of research, indicate that every site has about the same amount of scammers. Sites that provide almost 0% info on potential matches (Zoosk, POF, tagged, Chemistry, Match, ourtime, etc. - all worthless for matching, IMO) do NOT have fewer scammer than OKC. I am also a moderator on OKC. WORD: Do a GIS on every picture on every profile on every site. It will tell you if the pics were stolen from a commercial source (models, actors, etc.) or not. I have had a ton (sometimes 3/week) of dates from OKC, and I do not believe any of these guys were scammers. Finally, if you know how to spot a scammer, what difference does it make how many there are on any site? I am 59. Yes, I have many very young men contacting me. I just say "You are too young, but thank you for your interest." If they reply, I block. As I stated, I've met tons of great guys (and of course, creeps) and had a lot of dates. I have a lot of correspondence before the date, and make it clear that I am looking for LTR and NOT FWB, NSA (what a load of crap). I have not clicked with anyone yet; but the, I am an atheist, free-thinker, liberal in Texas. Not a lot of guys hit on me (after 18 months on OKC, I only get about 8 guys/week hitting on me. Check my profile: I'm not gorgeous (LIB75002) or email me: joannar75002@gmail.com). I will be happy to help you further, if requested.

You have to understand on clear thing: THIS SITE IS A 2 IN 1 DEAL. People are vetted based upon: 1) their overall attractiveness + 2) their ability to PULL IN MORE USERS I have found an UNDERGROUND OKC and have made some friends in that with my last account, but then admin began asking me strange questions about my experiences there that sounded alot less like SITE PATROLLING and a lot more like I WAS FOUND OUT AS A NON INSIDER among that group. I have a running list of accounts that are "sponsored" by the site. I was among the very first to report that okc was OWNED BY MATCH.COM to be used as its social outlet site. HOWEVER AS OF 2 DAYS AGO A MUCH BIGGER ANNOUNCEMENT WAS MADE: Match.com BOUGHT POF /Plenty of Fish and has bought into /partnered with TINDER. By years end ALSO be on lookout for Ashley Madison to be brought into the fold. WHY ALL THIS: to cut radically the price of the investment & upkeep of all those lab created profiles. BY overlapping data bases and also ADMIN STAFF... The operating costs should have al least a 40% reduction which means 40% more profit. Just so you know Toni, look up Passionate Composer. I will write you back. REAL PEOPLE DO THIS. You may like the profile too. I was among the first to take advantage of the social site move.

If you use care and caution it's safe. Women are subjected to more weirdos but you can block them. Spammers are going to get through and they will usually ask for your email or phone number. If someone interests you message a lot before you meet and always meet in a public place. If someone insists on more than you're comfortable with move on.

Yes, I have had this happen a lot. People just want your phone number because they don't want to use the site. Then they want to ask questions like where you are from. I guess so they can research you. I am real leery about giving out my email and phone numbers. All kinds of scammers out there.

Yes, it is completely free... You pay for the more advanced features, but over the last ten years or so, I have met my last 6 lovers through the site ( though oftentimes it turns out that we already knew the same people... The matching algorithms are simply_that_ *good*!) and have never given them a single penny. ( though honestly, I really should, if only out of gratitude!) Give it a try, it really is head and shoulders above the rest of the sites out there...!

This answer varies with other sites, so i won't speak to those. But as far as my experience with OKCUPID (fifteen years). They answer is yes they do. Not EVERYONE is hunting for a spouse. The current options on OKC are: Hookups, New Friends, Short Term, Long Term. You also can selected if you prefer monogamy or ethical non-monogamy. (There are a LOT of men and women that understand that monogamy is a failed paradigm to expect everyone to adhere to, its not one size fits all. If it was, there would be very few cheaters.) I have found what people select (casual, short term, long term) doesnt really matter. Relationships will naturally seek their logical state. If you meet a girl looking for a hookup and you both have OMFG chemistry, why would you never call her again? That actually happened to me. I met a younger woman stating she ONLY was interested in a summer fling because she would be returning to college in September. It started as casual sex in July, but when when September came we wanted to continue seeing each other. And in the Spring we both realized we had fallen in love almost instantly, we were holding back because we were trying to enforce the HOOKUP paradigm. Most women (and i assume men?) that think they want monogamy will state that in their profile and will ask you your intentions when you start chatting. If you say anything other than "i am monogamous and am only interested in serious relationships" they will tell you goodbye. This is coercion. You have to agree to a committed monogamous relationship with a total stranger... BEFORE YOU EVEN MEET. Take a moment and forget how you have been programmed by society and read the last sentence again and ask yourself if that seems reasonable. But if everyone is demanding it, then everyone thinks its normal and reasonable. I was 40 before i discovered that there are "normal" people that understand humans are not inherently monogamous, society and religion force it upon us and shame us if we aren't in compliance. What happens is that lying, cheating, and betrayal have become normalized, whereas honesty and authenticity are punished. But to answer your question, on OKCUPID there are decent, attractive, fun, intelligent quality people seeking casual and long term relationships. Be honest in your profile and say that you are honest and value honesty in others, even if the truth isnt convenient. Don't say long term if you really want casual, there are other people also looking for casual.

The best way to retrieve deleted messages from OKCupid is to contact the company help line as a kind of authority (INTERPOL, Police...), else, deletion of messages from the personal user members area is dead and gone.

It is free becausr you get to talk to your matches without paying. Those likes are in the deck you swipe through. So you CAN and WILL see likes eventually. I made a review on the site. I have paid for likes in the past. My full review will be released within 48hrs. Check it out! And all the best to you.