Terri - this is what I recently sent in about OKC. I will answer your specific questions at the end of this.

I have heard many complaints about OKC and scammers. But I AM NOT HAVING ANYWHERE NEAR THE PROBLEMS THAT OTHERS ARE COMPLAINING ABOUT. I am on several sites, and I experience about the same % of scammers on all. 1) it is so easy to spot a scanner - he wants to use email or text/phone right away. Is this really a problem? I immediately block. 2) if he is in Africa or any other 3rd world nation, I immediately block. I filter my messages so that I do not receive messages from anyone who has answered less than 100 questions or is at least an 85% match. Scammers are so obvious.

Also, I note that most scammers claim to be "god-fearing christians," or "looking for an LTR or marriage." I am an atheist and very liberal and state this in my profile and my questions. I know what I am about to say is very offputting, snobbish, elite, etc., but I don't think scammers hit atheist, well-educated, and skeptical people as much as they do others (christians). Sorry, but I did say you wouldn't like that.

Scammers are on every site. I have been following the sites and the complaints about scammers. My conclusion, based on my experience, blogs, and LOTS of research, indicate that every site has about the same amount of scammers. Sites that provide almost 0% info on potential matches (Zoosk, POF, tagged, Chemistry, Match, ourtime, etc. - all worthless for matching, IMO) do NOT have fewer scammer than OKC. I am also a moderator on OKC. WORD: Do a GIS on every picture on every profile on every site. It will tell you if the pics were stolen from a commercial source (models, actors, etc.) or not.

I have had a ton (sometimes 3/week) of dates from OKC, and I do not believe any of these guys were scammers.

Finally, if you know how to spot a scammer, what difference does it make how many there are on any site?

I am 59. Yes, I have many very young men contacting me. I just say "You are too young, but thank you for your interest." If they reply, I block.

As I stated, I've met tons of great guys (and of course, creeps) and had a lot of dates. I have a lot of correspondence before the date, and make it clear that I am looking for LTR and NOT FWB, NSA (what a load of crap). I have not clicked with anyone yet; but the, I am an atheist, free-thinker, liberal in Texas. Not a lot of guys hit on me (after 18 months on OKC, I only get about 8 guys/week hitting on me. Check my profile: I'm not gorgeous (LIB75002) or email me: joannar75002@gmail.com). I will be happy to help you further, if requested.

If you are over 50, you are in the target group for scammers. I'm a very atractive older woman want to meet a nice guy. Yes, I do get lot messages 60% were from men half of my ages, 38% were from fake profiles. I found out most younger men are really people. The fake profiles usually said will date a woman from anywhere, good looking, good job and have child. I met my boyfriend from this site. We've been together for over a year and very happy.

Just keep trying. The same with the female scammers. But isn't that funny how they trying to convince you to send money to Nigeria? I even go further- lie that I sent those money :)

I find many of the previous statements from older women TRUE and accurate. HOWEVER, what really turns me off of any site is when I DO plug in all the required limitations (age range etc) and still receive messages from young men young enough to be my GREAT grandson. For the guys I say this very sincerely I do not go for the 6 pac nor the supposed yachts or even the vets or elite addresses. TRUE STORY, I have DEAL BREAKERS and regardless how good looking or great a guy may be and he is holding a dog or cat, is a smoker or wants to meet at a bar for happy hour NIX, NIX. Also, I have been slammed and turned down by many guys as the site says the women has to take the incentive and make first contact for non paying members. I must have literally gone through hundreds of guys that never even bother to say EITHER WAY how they stand on my DEAL BREAKERS. ANY ONE OF MY DEAL BREAKERS IS JUST EXACTLY THAT. BAM he is out. So to reassure the men who feel women are gold diggers or just want you for what ever and you are not a he-man. This is not always the case. I can only speak for myself and know I am very selective as is my right. In my opinion most men are not or just do NOT put it out there (to me this is like looking for someone while being blindfolded. To say women are looking for security in itself is not a bad thing (not necessarily a CORVET, fancy address, MANSION OR ANY BIG $$$$ is not always true but I for one do not plan on paying for coffee for a meet. I also love it when you see not even after making contact "My friends say I am a good person and I am a romantic looking for a good kisser, and am touchy freely and want to talk on the phone I can't type well. There are talk LINES, prostitutes, and even a few gullible women out there (mostly new widows). I have to laugh at the men that paint a picture of how wonderful they are and in reality are looking for one thing and one thing only. I guess SR men really think women are as easy to get to as they were 50 years ago. To the man that does not even bother to give a profile, or the romantic AKA I'll wine and dine you if you play kissE face and free feels with me until I get in your pants and then move on. WISE UP. I can't empathize with what the men on these sites are dealing with as I do not date women and have no clue as to what other woman out there do or don't do, I can only speak for myself. I do find this sitejabber site more sincere and real than many of the profiles on any of the site mentioned. FYI I seek a clean cut non smoker, non pet person, non lush (this does not mean a tea teetotaler) some one not in denial of an an addiction and needs to seek help. For those of you who have taken the time to read my comment I hope I have enlightened some and for those of you I have offended. BRING IT. Have a great day.

I dont know about all the issues you are having but I do know about one of them: the crazy age contact thing. Okc is notorious for playing mind bender games with its account holders in the non spectacular files aka site sponsored users.

I daily see MATCHES FEATURED FOR ME that for example may look like: 15% MATCH 85% ENEMY. And this on some days is more than half my suggested results.

The thing in your issue although there are some younger guys looking for cougar, is most likely that MATCH SEARCH ENGINE.

I have begun to look FIRST AT THE SPECIFIED REQUESTED AGE OF ANY MATCH BEFORE I LIKE OR EMAIL.

Most dont realize that WHEN YOU SEARCH FOR SAY 30 -40...

That sites search engine deliberately does not REVERSE MATCH.

This is the cause of alot of problems. Almost no one realizes this and I guarantee most of the z generation guys there are too adhd to see that.

THe other thing you MUST REALIZE IS: REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU HAVE HEARD... OKC IS N-O-T A DATING/MATCH MAKING SITE.

That all ended about 4 years ago and was trickled down to last year when MATCH.COM who owns okc, converted this site into being their own social site outlet.

For this reason I began looking for friends and interesting people. Thats gone really well. The other was going like crap.

I had the same issues - younger men and scammers. I think it's just a stereotype that older women are more susceptible. I'm like you, I got very tired of it, eventually just quit the site. Never did date anyone from it.