Seeking Arrangements

I renew my account and on the same day they banned my account and charge for the full month... Scamm

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Dudes - Here's the con... you pay around $100 a month to look at the online catalogue of all the potential sugar babies, prostitutes, and scam artists in your area. Some are real, most are fake, but Brandon gets paid no matter what. Most messages sent to the really hot women will go unanswered, those are the bots. The prostitutes will reply, that's why they are there, just realize you are messaging back and forth with the pimp most of the time. The scam artists come in two varieties; a) the pre-pay through Venmo or PayPal type or b) say what you want to hear, meet, collect, underdeliver, then ghost type. One in every 30 women on the site may be an actual sugar baby, but they won't look like a model, just an FYI. Playing sugar daddy is a lot like gambling, if you can't afford to outlay some serious cash, maybe you shouldn't do it. Getting scammed is part of your risk, you can minimize this, but not entirely. If you don't want to get reported, be the first to block the sketchy pots.

Women - Brandon has worded everything very carefully in order to get you to make up a profile, because he needs men paying him to view your pretty pics. He actually has more men online than women, they're just not sugar daddies. In many ways he is 'grooming' you to believe that you have some kind of feminist control over an arrangement and men will pay you just to have the privilege of taking you out to dinner. Rich, powerful men simply don't tolerate this idea or concept. Most of the real sugar daddies have moved on from SA. It's been a huge waste of time lately, even more than it's been a waste of money, and our time is much more valuable than yours. Rich men do this because they want a sure thing and don't want to be with an everyday ratchet type of woman. The wining and dining, gift giving, exotic vacations all adds to the thrill of the chase and minimizes the dirty, transactional parts of an arrangement. No real sugar daddy will tolerate a 'Platonic' arrangement for any length of time, only the inexperienced or salt daddies will agree to to this. Another pretty face is just a click away.

Message sent also to Mr. Brandon Wade, CEO of seekingarrangement.com

I am also writing here because I've had no luck through the common communication channels of the website seekingarrangement.com and its CEO.
I've purchased a premium 1-month membership and after only a few days my account has been deleted without any notification. Upon contacting customer support, the only answer I received was that they had detected fraudulent activity from my account so it has been deleted and that they couldn't and weren't going to give me any explanation.
This is unacceptable. The normal way of dealing with any suspicion of fraudulent activity would be to contact the customer and try to find out what the problem is. The money was taken from my account without problems through 2buysafe.com. I've double checked that with my bank.
The only problem I can think of is that I'm connecting to the Internet through various VPNs, because of my work and my company's policies, which will not allow me to connect to the Internet via direct channels. So, there may have been a discrepancy between my country of residence, and my IPs, which may be from different countries. Apart from this, I cannot think of any other reason.
Some of this website's clients should very important people, to whom privacy matters more than anything. I took for granted that this company relied on such clients and that their needs were more than obvious to them, but obviously I was wrong.
I find the manner in which seekingarrangement.com has managed this incident very poor and disrespectful towards a paying customer, and I have requested either immediate re-activation of my account or a full refund. No answer yet. This is not the way to deal with clients. You cannot take someone's money and then deny them the service they've paid for, or at least an explanation!
So, avoid them at all costs!

I've been on this site 2years and many men seem to think a sugar baby is just an escort that you pay one small flat fee for sex as oppose to a real escort that you would pay per hour. It was fine with me since I only wanted a little supplemental income but ladies should be aware that's really what they are going to find most on this site-guys looking for cheap sex. If you're looking for one guy who's going to pay for your entire life and lavish you in extravagance you're going to be looking for a very long time. Those women you read about who are living the high life thanks to their uber rich sugar daddy are the exception NOT the norm. I'm a part time model with photos many thought were fake until they met me in person AND I'm near a major city (30min train ride to NYC) and the best I've been able to get on this site was $500 per visit from a gentleman in Manhattan. And only once have I had someone offer a monthly allowance instead of a per visit amount
Most of the men SAY they do not want a prostitute/escort whatever, but at the end of the day they still just want to buy sex! Go figure! Many of the men I spoke to didn't even want to do an introductory dinner/lunch/coffee, Just straight to the physical part... But still insisted they weren't looking for an escort lol! They complain about women looking for pay for play but that is all they offer you lol! Once I stopped trying to give them what they SAID they wanted and started giving them what they actually wanted I had a much less frustrating more successful experience with the site.
I'm sure many women will agree they've had a similar time on the site
And sidenote I am a woman of color and I get messages from all races on the site so I don't agree with the racist assessment. More likely that woman didn't get messages because she's simply not as attractive as she thinks she is

When I first joined I had high hopes but now not so much. While there are real profiles, these days it seems to be more fakes if anything.

If you're looking for something real chances are it honestly won't happen. Many of the guys say they want this and that but they want escorts or someone they normally wouldn't get in real life.

I'm a younger lgbtq male of color so of course it's not as easy for me as even on the gay side you basically see no blacks, a lot of racism etc.

Granted there are some sleezeballs I have met some okay fellows unfortunately it didn't go anywhere.

After a while you'll see it's the same faces, and basically that most profiles seem to be bots or fakes. Majority of the guys are also married, so they would want someone who they can pass off as a friend or family member to be discreet.

There's a big prefence on age as well, to some of them the younger the better.

All in all I think I'm going to delete it as I said most seem to be fake, or their profiles don't match their actions. Location is a big factor as well and I'm not in a prime location. As I said most are married so if you're not local, chances are it's a no go.

Most of the time they may not respond or even when they do the conversations are like pulling teeth. You'll come across profiles where the guys are explicitly stating they have no issue with distance and are willing to bring you to meet etc but upon writing they claim a ticket is too expensive.

So I have to agree with another review that some on there just want an easy lay without actually doing anything, basically faking the funk. I've also heard a lot of horror stories with scamming. Which is unfortunate because it makes it hard for genuine people to actually meet.

Beware young ladies. If you are serious about joining this site please become familiar with the following terms: sociopath, NPD, borderline, bipolar, gaslighting, all forms of abuse (mental, emotional, physical, financial. The type of men that are on this site usually fall into one of these categories. Think about it... he is on this site because he is incapable of having meaningful/healthy/loving relationships with well adjusted individuals. He has failed on all levels due to a personality disorder. So then he resorts to paying young & trusting women in hopes they will put up with the abuse. YES IT'S ABUSE. My advice comes from 2 years experience being on the site and 2 successful arrangements (not found on the site). I found my mentor in the real world and he was a GOOD man, not the fakes, abusers, and scammers on SA. He offered help because he truly cared about the person inside, not because he was looking to use me up and run away. My advice to you... weed out the fakers by agreeing to meet for a nego amount... do not meet for nothing... you will totally be used up emotionally & will be a waste of time. Not to mention these creeps usually want to get laid on a first date for a couple hundred measly $$. Second, DO NOT give these men your real name, phone number, or place where you live/work. These men have been known to start smear campaigns and then stalk you later on. Also these men will google you and get all your personal info and use it against you later (a NPD tactic). Thirdly, don't nego an arrangement on the first date... usually they have NO intention of giving you a allowance and never will. Think about it ladies, if he can get sex for 200-300 why is he going to agree to give you 4k a month? He's just selling you a pipedream to keep you around. Yes, these arrangements do exist but in my research 90% of men on SA are predators looking to manipulate and take advantage of good human beings. Ladies, be smart and don't fall for the lies. Protect yourself. Also even after what you think was a great first date... the games will soon begin.

Horrible site. Men pay 100 a month to get SCAMMED from men posing as women! Stay AWAY SCAM. And the women that are in there are prostitutes

I haven't found any one as of yet however I am talking to someone named Xavier Bencomo Does any one know who he is …is he a good person?

I've been a happy member of this site for the past 9 years. 9 years ago when it was only 69.95 a month but has since increased to 89.95 with no improvement to the site and in fact features were taken away resulting in an overall worse experience.

SA seem to have taken a sabbatical from advertising over the past 2 years as the number of members locally to me has dried up entriely, forcing one to look further away even in the time of the coronavirus.

Support also seems to have taken a sabbatical and is now seemingly outsourced to authoritarian internet janitors who enjoy denying service to users and never, ever admitting fault or that their bot may have made a mistake.

The site has taken an interesting approach to policing behaviour in that instead of a filtering system to prevent particular words from being used like on say onlyfans, they choose to automatically ban your account with no grounds for appeal. Likely an overreach to fear from SESTA & FOSTA which will eventually get them and I will celebrate the day they do when this happens after their treatment of me as a loyal costumer.

Firstly, their 'support' staff member accused me of soliciting sexual services for money which is blatantly untrue and anyone with any semblance of a brain knows up not discuss this on site. The then told me there would be no appeal, no review and any further emails would be ignored.

I pressed further with evidence to the contrary and then was bizarrely accused of fraud this time around, not solicitation. This shows they have no idea what they're doing and they're unwilling to admit their stupid bot is banning members in error.

I sure hope competition comes along because they've certainly taken foothold as the only semi reputable service there is.

You're running your website into the ground, Brandon and it will end up just like your dead sister sites, misstravel and what's your price.

I've been a sugar baby on and off for about 4 years. I've been in a very successful 3 year arrangement with a generous, established gentlemen, so I know that it's very possible to have great luck on the site. However, since I'm single again and searching, I've come to realize the quality of people on this site has gone to $#*!. There's too many scammers, liars, naive girls who know nothing about this, and men who prey on them.

Key points for the men:

1. I understand that not every male is going to be utterly rich and have a high budget for a good woman, but don't lie about it to impress these girls and then be a complete fake. Being open will help you find the girl who suits you, (and your budget.)
2. Don't expect the most from a woman but offer very little in return, in no way is that "mutually beneficial." That's being a cheapskate. If you think you can get any woman you want for free, then go on eHarmony!
3. Stop searching for the young, naive and desperate. You should have high standards just like these girls should. Lack of standards on both ends is what really drove the site to $#*! in the first place.
4. Always remain a gentleman, the right girl will come around and reward you. Don't scare off a girl who could wind up being the right one for you. There will always be trouble, scams, and lies on both ends, you just need to try your best to avoid it. The right girl will be worth the previous trouble.

Key points for women:

1. Don't be desperate. If you're on tight ends, get a real job, and do this for fun on the side. The more desperate you are, the more you'll be willing to do for the money and you'll most likely meet some bad characters and worst case scenario, you'll get in trouble with the law or get hurt.
2. Don't be naive, or expect everyone to be honest. Don't send your bank info or give your full name. Don't pic exchange unless you know you are both interested and plan on meeting. Don't meet anyone privately right away. Don't ever give him your address. If he's sending you an Uber to pick you up, give him the address to a store nearby. Real daddies will never ask to meet at your place.
3. Have standards. This should be a given and kinda ties into number 1. No one wants a girl who wants everybody. Trouble is everywhere, you just need to avoid it.
4. Be yourself. You don't like when a guy lies or fakes you out, so don't fake out others.
5. Stop falling in love with your sugar daddy. That's just weird, on top of most of them being already married.

DON T GO THERE FOR DATING OR MONEY!

I MET FEW, FULL OF FAKE PROFILS!

I went there just to know how people behave.
I texted with few pretending being enterpreners, businessmen. Travelling. When i met them, even if they were old, they even look fatter, 20 years older, and not normal but dressing poor and having poor behaviors. One pretending to be doctor in surgery. At a restaurant i didn t eat all the rice, he took the rest of that rice and sauce to take away. He wrote he had millions. Others took out tens of 1$ from their pockets to pay.
And others they put 1 a fake profil then when writting you, big presentation and nice Self description, then when you call their voice sounds like super old men of 30 years older than their age.
And some put their pics but 30 years before... and THEY GIVE YOU A FAKE NUMBER!

AND SOME PEOPLE WITHOUT PROFIL PIC WANT TO MEET YOU AND HAVING YOUR PHONE NUMBER NOP

THIS WEBSITE IS A SCAM FOR THOSE OLD MEN LOSERS AND YOUNG LOSERS.

AND THEY PRETEND TO HAVE PROSTITUTES IN WHO SCAM THEM I WONDER IF IT S NOT THE WEBSITE STAFF MEMBERS THEMSELF SCAMMING THEIR MEMBERS HAHA

ORHERWISE YOU MIGHT HAVE PROSTITUTES GOING THERE BUT I GUESS VERY TINY NUMBERS.

99 % OF GIRLS AND MEN DESCRIPTION ARE ALL FAKE PROFILS. TAKE CARE GIRL
TINDER IS $#*! BUT SEEKING IS REALLY WORSE

I've been on SA for over two months now. I'm an attractive 22 year old female student in college. I saw a lot of advertisement promoted by SA, and it sounded promising well it was all a load of BS! I decided I wasn't quiet ready for a real relationship between working and college, so I decided to get on here to meet some wealthy men who could help me financially, as well as I help them with my presence and so on and so forth. In other words, I knew the name of the game. My inbox was full of promising messages. Shortly in no time, I realize 99.9 percent of these men are all frauds, flakes, and fakes. They lie to you about their careers, income, and personal life. Not to mention, they all have some sort of issues, whether it be they are cheating on their wives, having prior past mommy issues, control issues... you name it. Just a few examples: one gentleman promised to pay me 900 dollars every time we met up. Thank GOD above, we talked for enough days to shortly find out that he was lying about that and looking for a real girlfriend and someone to move in. That's great and all, but hey bud try Match. Com not seeking arrangement where on this site women are looking for ARRANGEMENTS he must have missed that concept. I have another one who lived near by me and seemed promising and we met up for lunch where I did receive 100 bucks which was nice, granite I did drive an hour one way and an hour back to meet him, and we discussed how our arrangement would work out and it seemed to be all set, till he throws a last minute whammy on me that I'm not allowed to see any other men or guys and he will be wanting to know who I'm with, where I'm at, and what I'm doing at all times, so I canned him before that ever began because this is an ARRANGEMENT not a relationship. You compensate for the time I share with you not every moment I'm away, therefore no one is gonna control my life. Not even a real boyfriend, let along some 45 year old sugar daddy. My third gentleman, was just a T total freak, he seemed the most promising of all and we talked for weeks and everything was fine till he got pyscho on me and started making strange demands and telling me to go find random men at the bar, have intercourse with them, call him during it and let hear about it (so in essence he could be apart of it) and then tell them I have a sugar daddy and somehow he got off on that and would pay for me. Who the hell is gonna do that? A stranger is gonna look at you so crazy. Besides, what NORMAL man wants to pay you to be with another random man?! Ladies, don't waste your time unless you wanna deal with flakes, fakes, and frauds. There might be a success story, every one out of million, but take your chances elsewhere. Honestly I've gotten more out of walking into a bar by myself, and sitting next to a classy older gentleman.

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE PROTECT THE WOMEN ON THIS SITE. IT IS DISTURBING WHAT GOES ON THERE, AND THE KIND OF MEN THAT WEBSITE ATTRACTS.

I have several real nice girls on here that live real close.

Owner is a convicted sex offender. Full of rapists.