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OkCupid has a rating of 1.8 stars from 647 reviews, indicating that most customers are generally dissatisfied with their purchases. Reviewers complaining about OkCupid most frequently mention fake profiles, customer service, and phone number problems. OkCupid ranks 685th among Dating sites.

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Top Positive Review

“Great website!”

JONATHAN J.
1/2/13

Great website! Cool approach to the online dating world. Mostly clean well managed, Free! There are obviously things that could be improved, like server speed or conversation approaching style option expansion, but again it's free.

Top Critical Review

“Low grade, no preferences, quantity over quality with few good options”

Ghostwriter t.
10/4/24

I came onto this site twice, each time paid the monthly fee and each time my preferences were totally ignored. I am specific about what I want so that I do not have to go through 100's of men's profiles to weed out the men who smoke or want children. I find this website did absolutely nothing for me. They say no particular pictures are allowed to be posted yet they are constantly posted and low quality people are here to choose from because no one is checking the sites for quality assurance. This is the worst site as far as low level for the price, is should always be free if the site isn't doing what it claims its doing for you.

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Thumbnail of user janiciab
Idaho
1 review
10 helpful votes
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August 5th, 2015

A high-school alumni friend suggested OK Cupid because he used it when his long-term girlfriend died. I live on the opposite coast. Three Strikes and OK Cupid is Out! First was a well-known respected married scientist. We sincerely liked each other. But he got cold feet after our coffee date and knew he would be caught-too many red flags that he would raised. Second was a widowed man who lost his wife last year. We exchanged pleasant OK Cupid chats of our major common interests. Then, he disappeared - never to be heard from again. The third was an oil driller who wrote that appeared to be sincere notes. I gave him the benefit of the doubt when he wrote idealized messages about me. His last words were that he has prayed looking for a woman like myself. And lo and behold, I came across the horizon. Then, he disappeared. How convenient for these men to play it safe for a week's time with a flirtation over the computer. There was not going to be coffee dates nor concerts nor restaurants - absolutely false information from these males. To me, these males are cowards who sit by the safety of their computers and imagine great worlds. There will be no more online dating for me. What a Joke!

Thumbnail of user garyb174
GB
1 review
13 helpful votes
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May 10th, 2017

Full of nasty women and whales, most women on the site don't seem serious about meeting anyone, I sent 600 messages got no dates. Absolute crap... total waste of time.

Thumbnail of user robertt10
Michigan
2 reviews
12 helpful votes
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September 11th, 2011

Okay site layout/design. Not a single response... Makes me wonder if the site is "real" or just an information gathering melting pot for others to try and make a buck.

Thumbnail of user ians98
Massachusetts
1 review
8 helpful votes
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May 17th, 2017

This site is one of the worst I've used. Maybe for the select few in a heavily populated area it's alright, otherwise it's completely worthless.
I'm in a well populated area south of Boston. I fall into an age group that one would expect to find lots of single women. 35+, but there are very few users in that age group here. Quite honestly unless you pay for the premium membership, you cannot sort by physical preferences either. So you get age and distance and status. That's it. If you like them petite, you have to wade through dozens of profiles of large women or men for that matter. If you want to see, blondes and redheads, fine but you also need to see all the dark haired folks. Kids, no kids, etc...

Worst of all are the distance issues. They show you "matches" literally 200 miles away like that's going to work for anyone.

Look, it's free and easy to use, but it's a total waste of time. 3 months here, very few emails, nobody reads the profile first. 90% of the users are either very undesirable visually or total snobs and never reply unless you meet the exact criteria. Too tightly focused.

Find a better way..

Thumbnail of user tya25
Sri Lanka
5 reviews
49 helpful votes
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April 7th, 2019

It is designed to keep you just interested, but not to find you a relationship. I guess if it did, they will lose business. In terms of this, this site (as well as most dating sites) is a scam.
1. Your message is not directly delivered. Your message is only visible to the receiver if they "like" you. I do not understand why any person would write a proper introduction to someone or more than a few words because the chances of your message being read is nearly non-existent.
2. The matching process is superficial. You're basically matched by the pictures and a small introduction, assuming there's mutual "liking" of these two criteria. As mentioned above (no. 1), there's no mutual selection happening based on a conversation. Looks do matter, but when there's profile after profile to choose from, the selection process becomes too superficial.
3. They do not show all available profiles in your area, so good luck if you live in a small town. Every time I refresh the browsing page, the same few people shows up. As I've found out, you must "pass / unlike" them in order to have a new person shown to you. Algorithms are against users in this case.
4. Difficult to find people based on interests because they only allow their own keywords under the search options.

Overall, I found Okcupid to be a huge waste of time, a platform designed to defeat the purpose it's meant to do from a customers' point of view.

Thumbnail of user carloss45
Germany
20 reviews
160 helpful votes
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February 11th, 2015

Easy to use but nothing in the world is free. Annoying ads all over the place. And quality and quantity of members is worse than on other sites. Try mingle2day.com. You can thank me later...

Thumbnail of user stevena3
California
5 reviews
9 helpful votes
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November 23rd, 2011

A few bad apples like every dating site, but still, there are real women on here and im still friends with the ones i met to this day. Good friends, great sex, and its free? Hell yea this is "cool"

Thumbnail of user kathryna1
Idaho
1 review
6 helpful votes
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February 13th, 2013

I was on Match and Our Time, both of which require that you pay to send/respond to messages etc. I met total losers on both sites... illegal immigrants, homeless guys living in beat up old cars that are duct-taped together, no job, no other source of income, filthy clothes, terrible personal hygiene, greasy matted hair, looking like they haven't brushed their teeth in 6 months (some don't have any teeth at all), dirt under their fingernails, endless sob stories, asking to pay bills, asking for money. I'm not paying for any more dating sites.

So, I checked out OKCupid because it's free, and guess what... a lot of the guys on this site are the same ones that are on Match and Our Time. I signed up anyway (hey, it's free), then deleted my account within a few hours. My profile says I'm looking for a serious relationship, and I get tons of messages from guys looking only for sex and they want to hook-up with me in 30 minutes... without even getting to know me? Do they even read your profile to see what you're looking for? If my profile said I was looking to hook-up, I could understand it... but why am I getting requests for quickie sex sessions when I'm looking for a serious relationship?

Is it too much to ask that somebody take a shower before a date and put on clean clothes?

Thumbnail of user christind1
California
3 reviews
21 helpful votes
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June 22nd, 2015

The questions to answer is a stupid waste of time. I'm pretty sure my potential match doesn't care if I like crunchy or creamy peanut butter. None of my ex's cared about that. I've been off and on the site for many many years. I always started with POF, and when that site turned up silent and cold, I would switch to OKC. I've been single about 3 months now, and decided to get "back out there" I joined pof 3 months ago and I haven't gotten 1 email, message or wink. Talk about a shot to my confidence. After deleting my pof profile, I opened one up on okc. I re-activated my old account where I've answered well over 300 questions. After updating all my pictures and calling it a night I logged on about 3 days later. With 67 views to my profile 44 people liking me and 1 message in my inbox. And it was some guy from turkey who said I had pretty eyes. I logged off again for a few more days, came back and had 22 views, 7 people that liked me and 0 messages. I've gone ahead and messaged a bunch of guys, saying their profiles and personalities are hilarious, and they're interesting, funny, talented ect. Not a single reply. All the guys in my area are looking for an adventurous skinny free spirit, and they're the complete opposite! I know I live in ca but that superficial-ness is really unrealistic. I just deleted my profile, maybe online dating just isn't for me. I don't know why I keep going back, but there has to be a better site out there with people actually willing to talk to you.

Thumbnail of user ianb184
New York
1 review
3 helpful votes
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November 12th, 2018

Dont get the fuss. Seems average so far. Yes good member numbers but there are actually more in my city on wejustfit.com and ive had more dates there.

Thumbnail of user marys6204
Massachusetts
1 review
0 helpful votes
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August 3rd, 2023

If you're looking for a serious relationship then OkCupid is not the way to go. It's mainly a hookup app. Every guy I have matched with turned out to be a huge disappointment.

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Thumbnail of user kellye17
Tennessee
8 reviews
36 helpful votes
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July 6th, 2015

This site is a cross between Zoosk and E harmony dating site. Females are able to message/view profiles for FREE absolutely Free. Not sure how long this will last. Wil keep you posted.

Thumbnail of user alexg221
GB
1 review
5 helpful votes
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May 3rd, 2018

If OkCupid is the top dating site then im a bit worried. People saying wejustfit.com is better so heres hoping its an improvement on this so called leading site for finding love online.

Thumbnail of user ronaldr34
Illinois
3 reviews
30 helpful votes
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April 12th, 2017

Its a ok dating site for free but the PREMIUM A-LIST is not worth the money. I wanted simply slender, athletic, fit women & this was my ONLY criteria. Yes, I saw a few but not nearly as many as I expected to. If they don't have ANY more members who meet this ONE criteria out of thousands it tells me that ONLY FAT, OUT OF SHAPE, UNFIT women populate OK CUPID. And u pay dearly to find this out. PREMIUM A-LIST is a RIP OFF... ok for free, lol. Ron Rosen, MD

Thumbnail of user marl6
New York
1 review
20 helpful votes
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May 16th, 2019

This is the worst dating site I've ever been on and it's so so overrated that I'm pretty sure people who write positive five star reviews were paid by the company themselves. As soon as you sign up, your account will often be automatically suspended as they "review" it, however, if you don't contact them about it, they'll never restore it. And even if you do, they probably won't restore it either. Even if it's been restored, you're going to be suspended again, again, and again, for literally no reason. This is an exclusive site for a circle of special people that the moderators personally approve of. If they don't like you, you simply will be rejected, for whatever reason they think of (you'll never know the reason, since there is none actually). They ask a lot of questions, and if they don't like your answers or personal opinion on things, again, you'll get suspended. It will be disguised as "violation of the terms of service". Don't bother using this site, the staff won't help you. It's utterly useless. That's the "democracy" and "equality" they're so proud of promoting.

Thumbnail of user ethniko
Oregon
1 review
43 helpful votes
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May 15th, 2016

Not sure if I've been doing something wrong -- I think I'm not-ugly and put pretty good effort into my profile, messages, and answers to site questions without being rude, negative, creepy, or long-winded -- but I almost never got a reply in my 1.5-year use of this site, despite messaging dozens of women with a high match percentage; and when I did get a reply or even a first message, my reply to it didn't yield a reply. Apparently from what I've read the women are inundated daily with dozens of messages, many of them from bots, scammers, lechers, rude guys, etc, so I imagine the selection process is pretty difficult and competitive; but still, using this site seems utterly futile after a while, and I've pretty much exhausted all my good options (which were honestly many). What's more, I read not long ago that OkCupid actually lies to users about their percentage compatibility with other users, meaning it's possible that I saw users with match percentages very different from the ones they saw with me. I recommend sticking with old-fashioned methods of finding dates and using this site as a secondary means if anything.

Thumbnail of user audrianam1
Tennessee
1 review
1 helpful vote
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July 9th, 2021

I am extremely grateful for the promise that was delivered. This is the Truth! Fear is overwhelming in many ways, so why live with it when delivery is near. Make the move and enjoy life. It's time

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Thumbnail of user marciek3
New York
3 reviews
24 helpful votes
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January 28th, 2018

Okcupid used to be a fabulous and free way to meet people. The site was easy to use and visually pleasant. I was a member for 6 years and I've watched as they have systematically destroyed the site. Match.com bought them out out and now is squelching their competition by making the site unwieldy and difficult to contact people. You used to be able to send a message and the receiver could see and answer if they chose to, whether you were a paying member or not. Late 2017 they changed the messaging system and made it so confusing, that Cupid had to send a detailed blog post describing how to now contact people. It has become so encumbered as to make it too hard to even try and contact anyone. I gave up trying to connect and apparently other users feel the same. I no longer get messages since the change. Feedback from their users were across the board rabidly negative and Cupid has totally disregarded them. What used to be a great site has been killed by their competition. I guess the lure of $50 million was enough to sell their soul to the devil. Just business as usual.

Thumbnail of user jasonc170
Illinois
3 reviews
17 helpful votes
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November 16th, 2018

Another scam site. People will message you and then just disappear. Messaged several women and no response. Lots of deleted profiles. This site is a bust.

Thumbnail of user lorrainec31
Australia
2 reviews
10 helpful votes
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February 15th, 2016

Hi... this site has some pretty creepy questions to complete as part of the site setup and matching process... multiple, embedded questions seeking to identify those who were bullied at school, victims of abusive relationships, and those desperately lonely as well as multiple questions that are sex-related and unsavoury, and generally follow the same theme... these I skipped and the resultant personality graph developed from my answers to the questions did not appear inconsistent with the answers given, and were potentially manipulative (I have studied psychometric testing as an undergraduate, and worked in mental health, and many of these Qs are on the nose)... I was only on the site a couple of days and was swamped with 50 or so messages purportedly from the US when I was only interested in locals, and while they were courteous and seemed nice, many were clearly not who they said they were, and all wanted to immediately go to Messenger or private email addresses, which I declined... be very cautious if joining this site, and follow your instincts. It was easy enough to unsubscribe.

Thumbnail of user bg23
Florida
1 review
2 helpful votes
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February 11th, 2014

Okay, so I am little biased because OK Cupid worked for me. First off I was pretty selective and would only respond to people who were nice and polite, and showed a decent profile - no 'selfies' in the mirror, shirt off, gangster style, and so on. Out of these I went out with two men. The first one turned out to be on outing and FB friends where we still talk and are very friendly towards each other. The second one was a successful business man who asked me what my income was - first and last date which consisted in ice cream and good-bye. I was 'gone' for a while and always left the IM off. One day I was logged in on different things, including OK Cupid, and received an IM that I have no idea how it turned on. That was July 2011, August of 2012 we became an official item, February of 2013 we moved in together, and August of 2013 we were married. Happily married! What I can say is to not wait for overnight magic and Prince Charming, select what you want based on what is good according to your moral standards, and give people a chance. Not everyone is a douche bag nor a saint, but there are normal guys and gals out there waiting for an opportunity for something good. Best of luck!

Thumbnail of user miker950
Arkansas
4 reviews
6 helpful votes
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September 10th, 2020

So Far So Good, I found some decent dates off this site. I would highly recommend this for any single guys. But we are poly and that does make it hard for me and my wife to find someone else.

Thumbnail of user nancyd150
Washington
1 review
14 helpful votes
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November 16th, 2017

Okcupid Sail70e29 is again another fake profile for Randy Sonnier rss70 on plenty of fish. Claims he's a Captain and sails all the time... part time carpenter that's unemployed for the winter with a broken down sailboat that he calls home, who's just looking for free room and board provided by some unexpecting woman. He's handsome and charming and a complete sociopath. On a Friday night he claims to be sailing. Reality is he's spent all week on line looking for a hookup. Ok cupid and plenty of fish are just a place these people go for a captive hunting ground.

Thumbnail of user kevinf22
North Dakota
1 review
5 helpful votes
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March 10th, 2014

I was skeptical going in but was gld to be found wrong. Chatted with a few women and had some, that i thought, possibile matches. Went out with one woman who was nice but i jsut had no chemistry with.
Than one day i was scrolling thru some of the computer amtches and came across one that had a high percentage (plus a spunky profile message) so i contacted her. We talked for a bit and made a date for that coming weekend and spent th whole day together.
She is now living with me and i could not be happier. She is everything i had been looking for and i feel so lucky and blessed o have found her. I know this does not happen for everyone, but the site can and does work.

Thumbnail of user borisj
Slovenia
9 reviews
49 helpful votes
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June 18th, 2011

About OkCupid.com - well, the only positive thing is, that it is free.
But, NOTHING ON THE INTERNET IS REALLY FREE!
So, they rape you with 4-5 ads, who don't go away, even if you scroll up and down on the site. So they force you to upgrade or go blind from those nasty ads.
Besides that, only God knows, what they do with your email account, yes?

I think, that love should be free, but not annoying to get it, yes?

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