OkCupid

This is another site that is bullchit! You cannot put anything honest in your profile, for instance if you say... you dont date users or cheaters or money grubbers, then the hobags there who resemble that report you and your booted, if you report a scammer you will be booted! Phuck this site! ANOTHER CHIT SITE! Aslo like POF (plenty of fecal) they will take your money and boot you as soon as your reported for no reason and NO REFUND! Doesnt deserve any part of a star! STAY AWAY, and gee they wont resond to these cuz they know its a scam

I've used this site off and on for years during times when I was single. It's mostly a waste of time. These days 99.8% of women will not give you the time of day unless you're a 6'6" pro-bodybuilder lawyer millionaire with six pack abs, even when they themselves are average looking or far below. It doesn't matter if you're normal, have a great job, whatever, unless you are Brad Pitt you will have an extremely difficult time getting a response. That being said, I had a two-year relationship with a single-mother drug addict that I met on there in my early 30's. She stole my social security number after moving in and used my identity to acquire several credit cards to fund her drug habit. I also dated another woman for several months who ended up going to jail for grand larceny. Again, to fund her drug habit. It was obvious that her main interest in the relationship was financial. I love how the women on this site think they're such great prizes. They're the left over scraps that everyone banged in their 20's and won't commit to. Four kids with four different guys, drug problems, total train wrecks. The other side of the coin is narcissistic, overly validated, post graduate SWPL hipster trash/militant feminists, in the more metropolitan areas anyway. The reality of it too is that there are tons of thirsty guys fighting over these "prizes". If an average (or even ugly) woman gets 200 messages a day, it's going to be a pretty low ROI as far as getting responses, much less a date a goes. Between the advent of online dating, social media and smart phones, the amount of attention the average western woman gets daily is probably 20x what it would be even 20 years ago. This has fundamentally conditioned their attitudes on many levels. Skyscraper egos and narcissism are the new normal. I hate to say it, but honestly, I think most American men, if they are seriously looking for a wife/family would be better suited looking outside the Western Hemisphere where values tend to be a bit more traditional. Otherwise go American, just be aware of the reality of today. These aren't the women your grandfather dated. Don't have kids with them, cohabitate, or wife them up.

I never rate anyone this bad but because the site refuse to deal with the issues that they are having I have resigned to this!
Last October I joined the site and within a week I had two scammers, I reported them to OKC, however no one replied to my concerns and nothing was done about the scammers. I left the site after two weeks, however a month ago two of my friends talked me into giving it another shot which I did, in the past two weeks four scammers have tried to extract money from me and guess who showed up, you got it, Mr Scammer from last October, so that just tells me that no-one is monitoring the site. I had this issue with E Harmony in the past and the scammer was removed from the site within 3-4 hours of my complaint.
Watch out for the following which is quite common amongst them!
The one story that they like to use is that they have lost their wife, their english is usually poor, which they will explain that they lived in Peru for the first 20 years of their life, they will give you a Chicago telephone number (I cannot understand how they can get these from outside the country!) but if you call it there will be a delay in them answering and sometimes a different tone, like outside of the country and if you speak to them, the accent is usually South African and there is a delay in the conversation. They are nearly always unemployed through the hardships that they are experiencing and have no family or friends around.
Watch the times that they will be online or contact you as there is a six hour time difference. It is always fun to send a text at 6-7pm to see would they like to meet up and they will have a silly excuse or they are asleep!
One guy had an 847 telephone code, said it was his home phone number however he had a 323 mobile tel code, on the site he lived 27 miles north of Chicago, however when I asked what neighborhood he was in he said he lived in Lincoln Park which would be 30 miles south of where he supposedly lived. His mother lived in Michigan, however he ran daily errands and did grocery shopping for her, a joke and impossible because of distance! Which means this guy did not have a clue about distance or neighborhoods.
Anyway hope this helps and prevents someone getting scammed.
Thank you

I met the man I have been looking for my whole life on OK Cupid. We met 10 weeks ago and are getting married and planning on starting a family ASAP.

Did not help to me. Lot of people just hanging out without any will to find real relationships;-(

Good company and we are this as a company in now time Thanks for company
Thanks for management for company
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I been a member on Okcupid for quite a few years tho before rarely used the site maybe logged in a few times.

But have started to use it a lot more now over the past year in general i don't have many complaints its a better site than many of the others i have tried and this site seems to have better standards

Admittedly i am a bit annoyed about the new messaging system i mean before if someone sends a message it would be in your inbox but unless you both like each other you wont see the message until you have scanned the double take ( tho in double take you can see the person who sent message) once you like that person then you can start communicating it is a biit of a pain in the a$$ but still its better than some other sites

I had met 1 lady from this site in the past tho we only ended up as friends so at least i made a friend from the site.

Currently i am chatting to 3 ladies all is going well and i do find that the ladies on this site are more real maybe more educated or on the level compaired to other sites

There is also a lot less gold diggers and from what i hea a lot less perverted old men looking to play with the young girls so thats a bonus.

But problem i do find with this site is its performance in terms of loading sometimes it will take a bit of time for the site to respond when i click the read more from my gmail account or when site is loaded it takes some time for the message box to appear also i find sometimes that when sending a message i get the error no responce and message not sent

Other than that i don't really see any other problem with the site i have no real complaints i admit it wuld be nice to have a little more choices without having to pay but nope i cannot complain

So hopefully i will soon get to meet one of these girls i am chatting with.

So to all the daters out there i will say good luck on finding your man/lady

Do background checks and never meet a man alone - go to a well lit restaurant or cafe.

I have actually met some really awesome people from OKC. :)) One of which i am currently seeing.

I have been on and off this site often. Years ago it was designed by programmers, like myself, great concepts of matching with questions - and Free! Well, it still has the same stuff, now owned by Match.com - even saw job openings on match to work on okcupid site...
I have written well over 250 messages personally addressed to each person, sharing interests, and asking only to type more or meet if they like. My profile is honest, and portrays me exactly, I am a nice guy, clearly state I would like to get to know someone with long-term intentions - no interest in FWB/short-term fun ever. I've even had compliments on my profile - yet, by women outside the state or my dating age range - so no reason for them to lie...
Too Picky - my conclusion based on writing so many whose profile literally sounds as if it was written describing me - such that anyone who knows me would agree, that this person sounds like they were describing me... yet - not even a reply. My only conclusion is they are looking for Mr. Perfect, not even willing to share some conversation.
The facts - Of those written, less than 5% are Asian - and yet, in 5 years of looking (1999-2000, 2012-2013, 2015-2016) - the only replies I have ever had have been Asians. I guess they don't get as many messages so the odds are in my favor? I have met 2 Caucasians, and not a single date beyond a meeting... Why so picky? So - ladies - reply, like what do you have to loose and you might actually find you like the guy, me...

The greats: Question matching - and comments, it is a lot of fun to read through comments and answers of potential dates. At one time, back in 2014 I was well over 6,900 questions before I met a gal on a different site who was pissed when she saw me disabling my profile - made me delete it. Found numerous articles about how to find the right gal - answer only those questions you really need to know - not all of them. Too late now as I'm over 1000 now again...

The bad: Messages - they've messed this up, difficult to use - takes 3 clicks to see if someone read your message now... hope they simplify it.
Some of the search features I really question. Searches also - seldom return correct results - run it once and get a few results - less than 8 once, and the same search query ran the prior day gave two pages of results.
The question algorithms that do the matching - also block results at times, not consistent. There should be a way to disable question pre-filtering of search results - so we can do non-question matched searches... this does not exist.

The worst: - need more women there who are actually looking for a long term relationship
OKCupid - is one of the best designed, could be best overall as it literally, assuming the questions are answered honestly - matches two people on how they feel on stuff. The problem is, there are not enough new ones there. Many faces I have seen in 2000 and 2012.

I have been okcupid off and on for several years, and up until this year, I liked it better than most other dating sites out there. I've had difficulty lately with my profile name being stolen on Plenty of Fish THREE times in the past 6 months. Nobody responds to me on eharmony. That's why I don't pay anymore.
Many men consider me to be an attractive and sexy 50 year old woman. I have more 20 year olds contacting me than anything else. I will talk to most anyone out there who emails me unless I'm downright repulsed by their picture. I don't respond to shirtless men or men who look depressed, don't smile, or appear "off" in their picture. I have been dating online for a long time and after meeting so many men in person after sending minimal emails back and forth, I will not do it anymore. The reason many men want to meet so quickly is because they fear that if you continue to text or talk on the phone for more than a few days, you will figure out their "baggage" and not want to meet. And when I say "baggage," I mean mental baggage. Crazy, angry at the world or an ex, whatever. I think if a man is good and respects women, they should give a little longer getting to know each other on the phone. I understand that this can work both ways and that there are women who delay meeting because they are not who they say they are.
As far as OkCupid lately, like in the past couple months, I have been getting the message that the robot had a meltdown. I was able to get into it for the past couple weeks but yesterday, I got the meltdown message again. While I was on there, I received several emails from scammers. I can tell by their introduction to me when they say "I am Richard by name" as opposed to "my name is Richard." Or their profile is very vague about their interests and all they talk is poetry and romance. Usually they are widowed and have an only child that they are raising on their own because their wife met untimely death. Their Language is a little off and when I try to pressure them to give me an exact location here in town, they can't do that or they give me the name of a mall or something.
I believe that the site has worked for some, and I believe that if you are extremely attractive that you won't get many responses. I think that many men are intimidated by me because I have my stuff together really well, have a very good job and I know I am. I think that it's very easy for men to take advantage of women who don't know who they are or can be on the inside and the outside.
But since I'm a glass full kind of girl, I figure that if there is someone like me out there looking, then there's got to be men out there just like me looking as well. I may be a romantic at heart, but I'm also a realist. There's just not that many real people out there to balance out all the garbage. Not to mention the scammers and the bots and that the customer service is lacking.

I was on okcupid for about 3 months. Filled out a profile, answered the questions, never paid for it. I got hundreds of messages from men. A lot of them complete loosers, but there were some good, decent men on there, even in my area. I talked to a lot of guys. I was a single mom, but didnt mention that in my profile. Id only mention my daughter if i was interested after conversating for a bit. Most guys said they didnt mind, but a lot of the conversations slowly faded to an end after id mention it. I met 3 guys in person. The first one ended up being a really nice guy. But religiously he was more extreme than me and it didnt work out after 2 dates he ended it, we became freinds on facebook though. The second guy seemed great and was all into me, but it just didnt work out. We dated for a month, nothing serious. We didnt fool around. He suddenly stopped talking to me without an explanation. The next day i met on okcupid the man i would marry. It started out cute sweet conversation. I mentioned i had a daughter and he seemed totally ok about it. Said he had a big family with lots of neices and nephews from cousins. I gave him my number that same day and we started texting. We matched on okcupid by 70 percent i think? We had a lot in common. He lived 4 miles away. He lived alone with his 2 dogs and took care of himself and had a lot going for him. I found out he was a firefighter too. How lucky did i get?! We met 3 days later and the rest is history. He met my daughter a little over a month later and i sold my house and moved in with him 4 months after that. We were engaged after 6 months together and a year and 8 months after we first met, we are married and planning another child. We have luck and online dating to thank, specifically okcupid.

I am a man searching for a woman to be my soulmate or something even more. I live in an upscale well known area and I am a good looking guy (at least my friends say so). I work in Internet marketing, and I am a firm believer in ethical honest marketing of products and services. I rarely write website reviews but my recent experience with okcupid compels me to do so. After brief experiments with other free and paid dating sites I chose OkCupid because they are owned by Match.com, the leader in this industry. I spent hours honestly answering over 1500 OkCupid questions and writing an accurate and interesting profile. Added my best and most recent photos... High quality ones showing me in some of my leisure and travel activities. After using the free site for a month with no results I decided to pay for Okcupid for 6 months. And then I went searching. I had lots of over 90% matches but received only a few replies when I messaged my matches of average, above average, and hot women that were marked as online. Over the course of 2 months I "liked" over 1000 women. I messaged over 70 women. Based on my research I expected a few fake profiles. I was disappointed by the fake profiles I believed I found on this sight, so instead of sending pickup lines I began trying to message people to see if you are a real person or another fake profile posted by the OkCupid people. About 50 of my messages were read, according to OkCupid'S website. When I did receive answers they were always short, and no one wanted to go onto the next level of actually talking by phone or meeting someplace public. Very suspicious, I thought! Consistently, when I asked I was given a similar answer. "If no one answers they are not interested" and this is what raised my suspicions. I just couldn't believe there would be so many rude people in my locality. Nearly everyone in my town and neighboring area are quite sociable and friendly. So I began to "test" non responders by telling them I thought their profiles might be fake. My test was to ask them about a store, street or place that only a local resident might know. I was careful to not include questions easily answered with google. After several tests I did receive a few responses. However when I asked my challenge question NO ONE responded... and at least one just said "bye" and that's when I drew my conclusions about OkCupid.
In my opinion I believe Okcupid is certainly engaging and fun to use but does not deliver. It has the potential to be a big time waste, at least from this man's perspective. If there were a way to authenticate users I would be more inclined to continue using the site. However based on my experience I cannot recommend this site to other men. I would be quite interested if any other men gave had better experiences.

I don't know about you, guys, but I found love of my life on this site!

Not good whatever i search i always get bad results them females are nearly all ugly.

A good free dating site, nice features and easy to use. Good 'quality' of active members.

I like the website, but the questionnaire is way too long... cut it down guys

I have posted before, but wanted to tell you that I am now a moderator on OkCupid. I have no idea how they select mods, but perhaps being a payment member is part of it.

We do not moderate anything in the questions or profile summaries. We are asked only to check out profile pictures (the main one) which have been reported (flagged) by members. Google Image Search is invaluable. I suggest you use it to check everyone who contacts you and vice-versa. I have been doing this for a few months, and I am still AMAZED at the number of scammers, prostitutes (many from other countries), models, etc., who use this site for nefarious purposes. Usually they have only the one profile pic, and the photos are professional (or close to). Check out romancescam.com. They have the latest scams, including names of the "famous" people whose pictures are being used (latest: Raven Riley, whoever she is).

But some are photos taken from innocent victims, people whose profiles are normal with nothing to suggest scamming. They look quite ordinary, even plain, and the photos are not professional. Often, these photos have been ripped off by a scammer and passed around to many sites. Romancescam has some on their website and have been able to prove the person is really legit, and has no idea how/why his photo was picked. And it is difficult for them to fight this.

If a photo gets enough moderators who found the photo on GIS and/or tineye.com, that photo is deleted. So if you see a profile with an unexplained blank photo, chances are good that person's photo was removed by OkCupid thru moderators' input.

Now I do a GIS on all photos, including ones from other sites. This is only based on my anecdotal evidence, but I don't see much of a difference in numbers of fake photos in the other sites.

P.S. OkCupid is also one of the very few sites that aim for all kinds of relationships (hook-up to marriage) that does not edit the members' essay. You can say anything (except racist or hate comments).

Unfortunately, as others have noticed, the customer service is nonexistent. You can't find a phone number anywhere.

As an aside, want some fun? Look at Adult Friend Finder. It is statistically impossible that every man is as well-endowed as he claims. With photos to prove it (GIS says othewise). After an hour or so, you will never want to see another penis (at least for awhile). I get about 10-15 hits a day, about 1/3 under 25. Sigh. If only I had enough energy (I'm 58).

Happy hunting. And all questions/comments welcomed.

Just out to get your money. Into their own thing. Not attentive to customers.

The site is full of scammers and escorts. A total waste of time.

Be careful your not duped by a bot, not everyone is for real here, thats for dam sure.

Nobody calls me I message people no response I want a refund

This site is free to use. I have no complains about it. Very easy to use!